Today, in my ethics class, we shared personal stories. It was all part of a nation wide long standing project This I Believe. I was approached after class and was told that I was gutsy. The more I thought about, I was being truthful.
I believe that love is love. It has nothing to do with your gender or race. This is a belief that I’ve held for a long time. I became aware of it when my best friend in middle school came out to me as bisexual and as I began my own coming out journey.
In the summer of 2014, I became hopeful that I might be able to get married to the love of my life in Wisconsin. On June 6th, the state ban on same sex marriage was struck down and counties began to give out marriage licenses. Though the attorney general for the state quickly put a stop to the counties doing this with an injunction, it gave me the hope that things were changing.
This is a big issue as more states in the country have allowed same sex marriage. At the time this was written, 19 states have legalized same sex marriage including Illinois, Minnesota and Michigan have had their ban overturned.
During this same time, a close family friend, Chad, got married to his partner, Jeff. I was invited to go to the ceremony. I was excited by the thought of going. It was beautiful. I was in awe of how much love I could feel from the two of them. I could tell that this was a moment that they had wanted for a very long time. I knew that they were going to be together for the long haul.
Very early on in the ceremony, the officiant told those in attendance that Chad and Jeff had made a trip to Chicago to be married as well. I got choked up and had tears of joy flowing down my cheeks. I never even thought of that as an option and it was so cool to see them go and do it.
While watching the ceremony, I began to imagine myself in their shoes. I began to imagine myself in front of my family and friends with the love of my life standing beside me and professing my love to all those in attendance. I began to imagine that the state recognized our love as equal.
Looking around the crowd of over 200 people, I was amazed by the variety of the people who attended the ceremony. There was a county official there as well as city officials and other business professionals. This fact as well affirms my belief that love is love.
After the ceremony, Chad and Jeff were so grateful for the number of people who were able to attend since it was such short notice. It was a beautiful ceremony in a beautiful venue for a beautiful couple. To see friends come together to get the wedding planned, it was an amazing testament to the fact that many people believe that love is love.
I want to know that I’ll be able to go and see my wife in the hospital if she is sick and she can do the same if I am. I want to be able to file joint taxes as married people have the ability to so that I don’t miss out on certain credits and deductions. As things go forward, I hope that my dreams can become reality. I think that the country as a whole is headed in the right direction.
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